Stop being so accommodating
By Mike Mahler"I don't think you were put here to please everybody; that would be horrible.You have to have some kind of a stand and stand against something as well.You're no longer a real person, but a pinball in the game of life being thrown from one side of the table to the other--not an empowering way to live, to say the least.There's a that comes from having the deck stacked against you and prevailing; those are the times when you discover what you're made of and are fully alive.Finally, I suggested that I either switch seats with one of them or they respect my personal space and stop passing things over me and talking over me.While they were the ones that were being rude both of them looked at me like I was crazy. Fortunately I spotted an empty window seat in the front row and moved leaving the annoying couple pondering why someone had the audacity to question their rude and inconsiderate actions.
The best job possible comes from being genuine, and in the moment, rather than being focused on approval from others.Sure, some accommodation is necessary and we can't always have things our way, but letting others walk all over us and decide how have to explain your actions to others nor get their approval. Well, they weren't going to like you anyway so it's not a big deal.It's a liberating feeling knowing you don't have to take crap from people; you can stand your ground and do what's best for you instead of living a fear-based, accommodating lifestyle.Being accommodating in major areas of your life comes from being accommodating in the seemingly insignificant areas.Recently, I was on a flight and got stuck in the middle of a row.
If not, you're just being accommodating."- Rocco Deluca A few weeks ago I was talking to my friend, Harley Flanagan, about my latest kettlebell DVD on fat loss.