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If more young men grow up with the firm believe of zero tolerance, they might not be so hesitant to interfere.
I’m sorry ladies, I know you think you can handle everything on your own, but sometimes it is better for the same sex to apply more pressure.
If other men, however, shun his behavior as well, the intimidation factor to the perpetrator becomes much greater.
At the very least, it takes away the feeling that other men are “on his side”, or support his behavior (silence can often be misinterpreted as support).
If all those men, however, would tell him that was a little over the top and rather uncalled-for, he was just knocked down a few notches by his own peers. Oftentimes, men who commit those crimes are not necessarily the most physically powerful.
When it comes to cat-calls and remarks in general, it is often not the fact that they were done at all, but the way things were said.
If men openly declare no tolerance, then he will know he also loses the respect and support of his own gender if he behaves a certain way (commits the crime). Men will always pose a greater physical threat to other men than women do.
Once a perpetrator has to worry not only about his victim, but about other men as well, he is likely to think twice (at least in the case of harassment).
I remember my neighbor, an overly earnest guy, raising his hand in his overly earnest way, and asking the facilitator, “What can I, as a man, do to prevent rape?
It creates a swell of awareness that this behavior is more rampant than we knew. We’re half of society, and we all have to live together on this planet. The best thing men can express in this movement is a show of no tolerance for inappropriate sexual behavior.
It makes people perpetrating these crimes profoundly uncomfortable at being outed. So how are the 94% supposed to contend with the 6% who are tarnishing our gender? He hit me in the face three times before I was thrown out of the bar. Too often, too much is being ignored and dismissed as “oh, he’s just being a man” (by both women and men).
A woman can raise all the fuss she wants, and still be considered weaker or the victim by the perpetrator.
(If he wouldn’t have considered her in a “weaker” position, he wouldn’t have tried to begin with).
I wanted to say something about being a happily married man, a father of a daughter, a dating coach for women.