When sex is kept out of the arena of dating, it allows those who are dating to be free to live their lives according to God’s Word.This builds a mutual respect and care for one another.Chapter 7 of I Corinthians provides a positive framework for sexual behavior between men and women—whether married or single—setting the standard God wants for His people.It is good or pleasing to God for a man to not touch a woman as if she were his wife, if she is not.To them, it unnecessarily confines their dating relationship. Let’s go to the Scriptures to see what God wants for our lives.Others say that sex should not be a casual event, but one reserved for marriage. I Corinthians -34: …He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please The married and the unmarried are not the same, and God notes a distinction between the two.If a person simply gives in to impulses because of their emotions or hormones, they are limiting the fullness of life that God wants them to have. For example, being sexually involved outside of marriage can put pressure on the woman and/or the man to feel bound, or obligated, to the other; yet there is no marriage commitment between them.
Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend of our culture. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a lifelong partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to tweets, texts, and snaps, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling around. Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of our marriages.So, as singles we have to work harder in our not-yet-married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture and provide.Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.I had all of my needs met within the boundaries of that land, and I enjoyed my childhood to the fullest.I also felt safe, knowing that others did not have the right to cross those boundaries. I have seen boundaries looked at in one of two ways: either God has given us definite boundaries to live within—not to confine us, but rather to define how to live a truly satisfying life, avoiding the pitfalls of the world.