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Suddenly there was a different way to find a partner, one that promised practically infinite possibilities, where an algorithm could find you the “right” person without you needing to do the hard work of ever actually talking to them in person.
And if you don’t like what you see, you can always click on to the next profile – there is always another candidate just around the corner!
And it gets worse the more prescriptive you are about your requirements.
Some sites take this to an extreme degree and let you go nuts specifying the attributes you want: professional background, religion, salary, ethnicity, personal habits, even pet preferences!
Yes, that’s just the number of different it’s no wonder that many people find online dating overwhelming!
A bit over a decade ago, online dating was viewed by many as the last resort for those who hadn’t found a relationship the “normal” way.
Of course, online dating wouldn’t be so popular if it didn’t work for so many people.
According to some estimates, over a third of marriages in the US are now from couples who first met online.
You’ve just met someone who is good at telling you what you want to hear.
Instead of meeting people in a fun social environment first, and using all the social tools we have to figure out if you like somebody’s company, technology arrived to help you make a decision about someone without ever even needing to meet them in person.
And with such an alluring promise, it’s understandable why online dating took off so quickly.
There is increasing evidence that, in face-to-face meetings, we are subconsciously picking up clues about the suitability of future partners based on a wide variety of non-verbal information.
Online dating lures us with the false promise of an “ideal” partner so much that we apply filters that ensure we never get to meet that person in the first place.
Nobody’s profile really represents what they’re like in real life.