6 months of dating
To me, this time spent meant that either we had gotten comfortable just dating and were subconsciously tied to just that, or simply put, maybe he just wasn’t into me.
Whatever the reason, one thing was clear: we were not going to be together.
Most would agree that this is one of the keys to a healthy relationship; but someone should have also put a time cap on the ‘friend zone.’ While it is usually recommended to take your time to get to know the person you potentially want to be with, is there such a thing as getting to know them too long before making a commitment? Sure, taking it slow is the responsible thing to do; but taking it too slow is usually a waste of someone’s time.
Some people fall in love much quicker than others; but I’m close to believing that if it takes you more than six months to decide what you want from a person, the connection just isn’t there.
This is usually because one of us wants more than what the other is willing to give.
If it hadn’t happened in 365 days, what made me think that on day 366, my year-long wish would be granted?
Situations like this one influenced my decision to develop my own six-month rule.
I’ve chosen to be proactive and make every attempt to prevent those crushed feelings from being my own.
And even on the flipside, I don’t want to be that girl that makes a man despise all women because I’ve played tic-tac-toe with his emotions.
It can feel like a big step to start hanging out multiple days in a row, but that's pretty much exactly what a relationship is.